Surviving An Affair And Betrayal

Can Relationships Really Survive An Infidelity?

While affairs devastate a relationship, they do not have to end one.

Right now you are struggling to catch your breath. You are shocked and devastated. Do not let your hurt, devastation or anger make your decisions for you. You need a chance to catch up with all the information and questions that keep cropping up.

There are numerous ways that will  help you calm yourself, slow down the decision process and help you regain your bearings.

We specialize in helping individuals and couples survive and thrive after an infidelity as well as determine if the relationship is capable of being rebuilt and growing through the betrayal.

Your marriage can survive an affair. Healing from infidelity is hard, painful work; both of you must be committed to repairing the damage, rebuilding trust, and reconnecting. The unfaithful spouse must be willing to stop the affair, provide all details honestly and completely, and take the steps necessary to prove his or her trustworthiness. The betrayed spouse must take the job of healing seriously—by not minimizing or trying to speed up the process and, at times, by setting aside overwhelming anger and despair in order to learn more about what’s happened. Stopping secrecy and building a more honest union are the keys.

Marriage is hard. Most of us are not prepared for what it asks. What you  promised in the beginning looked like a relationship is full of potential and hope.

Infidelity is devastating.  I can speak with authority to you about what it takes to recover from infidelity.  Surviving infidelity is no different than any serious life challenge. Contained within its experience is both pain and opportunity. I will help you  learn from the painful insights contained in infidelity versus hiding in the shame, humiliation, and pain.

Affairs need deception to exist. The antidote for the deception that fuels infidelity is fierce truth and total transparency.

Without transparency there is no integrity. Within time we can open up again and feel safe enough to be vulnerable with each other.

When there is no vulnerability, the conversation lacks potency and intimacy.

Have you discovered your spouse is having an affair?

If so, you are probably wondering if your relationship can be repaired or whether you will find yourself having to divorce.

What We Do

Right now you need a safe place to put all of this. You need someone to guide you through each step of the way. You need  healing, hope, and real possibility for what is possible.

Couples committed to recovery after an affair, no matter how devastating the circumstances, can have a better marriage than ever before.

As an authority on infidelity and through a real knowledge of the affair recovery process for both of you, building healthy relationships, restoring trust and intimacy, forgiveness, and personal and relational development, our couple-based program empowers the two of you to find and make choices that bring about understanding and heal your marriage.

Our work is guided by the simple question, “What does it take to have an EXTRAORDINARY relationship?” One where you create a positive, permanent shift in the quality of your relationship, expand what is possible, and together create a marriage that is fulfilling and brings  about true lasting love.

It is our goal to help you save your marriage and design an extraordinary relationship even if you are the only one that wants it.