Children Change Your Marriage

Make Each Other The Priority In Your Marriage

Once you have children, you realize how few and far between the moments are that you have together as a couple. I have kids and it is the most wonderful experience to be a Mom. The day each one was born was a major highlight in my life. And I have grown immensely from being a parent. The best advice is to give to your marriage. If the parents are okay, the kids will be okay. Just consider that children change your marriage and you must find ways to continue to make each other the priority.

I teach a marriage preparation class and this discussion comes up often – what happens when kids come to your relationship. It is a pivotal moment in a marriage and a happy event. Babies are pretty much helpless and need extra special care in that first year of life. Realize that you will fall in love with this child – those of you that already have children know this to be true. The thing is that you still want to carve out time each day to let your spouse know they are special and important too.

This is an interesting group to open up the topic of kids and marriage with. They are so in love- they lose sleep just for the chance to spend more time together. Little do they know what we do in that they will lose more sleep once their child is born and have a hard time balancing all the demands of life. Children do change your marriage. Find more and more ways to make  each other a priority. Keep the closeness and connection alive. You have more than enough love to give your children and each other too.