Marriage & Relationship Coaching · Debbie Rivera
Your Marriage Is Hurting.
You Don’t Have to Fix It Alone.
The affair you can’t stop thinking about. The fights that circle and never land. The silence that’s grown between you. The word neither of you wants to say out loud. However you got here — you’re in the right place, and you will not be judged here.
I’m Debbie. I guide couples from barely surviving to thriving — with a clear plan, a steady hand, and a way forward.
You Are Safe Here
Whatever Brought You Here — I’ve Sat With It Before
- The couple three days past discovering an affair, certain their world has ended.
- The spouse who strayed, drowning in shame, desperate to make it right.
- The couple who love each other but live like roommates.
- The one whose partner “isn’t sure anymore” — and the one who isn’t sure.
- The husband who’s lost his footing — feeling criticized, shut out, and unsure how to win at home anymore.
- The wife who carries everything — stressed, overwhelmed, and wondering when someone will appreciate her.
- The couple who tried counseling and left more discouraged than they came.
And if an affair is part of your story, hear this: depending on the research, infidelity touches anywhere from one in five marriages to more than half. You are not broken, and you are not alone.
My Vow to Every Couple
You will be seen — both of you. You will be heard — both of you. There is no villain’s chair in my sessions and no judgment in my heart. There is only the work: understanding what happened, healing what’s wounded, and building what comes next.
Your Guide
A Steady Hand That Knows the Way
I’ve devoted decades — and more than two dozen certifications — to one question: how does love survive its hardest moments? I trained with the finest teachers in the field, and I bring something few marriage coaches can: I am also a Certified Grief Coach, because a marriage in crisis is grieving, and that grief must be honored before trust can be rebuilt.
- Certified Couples Relationship Coach — Relationship Coaching Institute
- Gottman Method trained & certified · Registered Gottman Relationship Checkup provider
- EFT certified · Imago Relationships certified · Encounter-centered Couples training (Hedy Schleifer)
- Inner Harmony Practitioner License — parts work in the tradition of Richard Schwartz
- Advanced studies with Esther Perel & Terry Real · Somatic training · Certified Grief Coach
But credentials only tell you what I know. What matters more is what I believe: that couples come back from this. I’ve watched marriages that looked finished become more honest, more tender, and more alive than before the crisis.
The Roadmap
A Clear Plan. A Way Forward. Starting Now.
Crisis feels like chaos — so the first gift I give every couple is a plan. Here is exactly how we begin:
A Free Consultation Call
We talk — privately, honestly, no pressure. You tell me where your marriage is; I tell you truthfully whether and how I can help. You’ll feel the difference in this one call.
Your Personalized Roadmap
You complete the research-based Gottman Relationship Checkup and my in-depth questionnaire. I review everything — because every marriage is unique, and your path is built around your story, not a formula.
We Walk It Together
Through an intensive or ongoing sessions, I guide you step by step — grieving what was, healing what’s wounded, and building the marriage that serves you now — until you both feel seen, heard, satisfied, content, understood, and loved.
Ways to Work With Me
Two Paths. One Destination: Thriving.
The 3-Day Virtual Marriage Intensive
For marriages in crisis that can’t wait
Fifteen hours of private, focused work over three days — from your own home — plus preparation before and follow-up sessions after. The equivalent of months of weekly counseling, accomplished in one transformative arc. My signature work for affair recovery and marriages on the verge.
Explore the IntensiveOngoing Couples & Individual Coaching
For steady healing and growth, week by week
Private virtual sessions for couples and individuals — with continuing packages of 8 or 12 sessions, and 6-month and 1-year programs for couples committed to building a marriage that lasts. Many intensive couples continue here; many couples begin here.
Ask About CoachingWhat I Believe
The Heart of My Work
An Affair Is a Grief
It is a wound, and it hurts like one. There is grieving — the loss of the marriage you thought you had, the person you thought you knew. Most approaches rush past this straight to “rebuilding trust,” and fail, because you cannot rebuild on an ungrieved loss. First we honor the grieving. Then healing can take place. Then we rebuild trust on something your marriage may never have had before: an honesty deeper than anything that existed until now.
Requests, Not Criticism
Somewhere along the way, many wives find themselves sounding like a mother — and many husbands quietly retreat, feeling managed instead of wanted. Neither of you chose this dynamic, and neither of you is the villain. I teach women how to turn criticism into requests that actually get heard — and I have a particular gift for helping men step back into their confidence, so they show up as the partner they want to be. When she feels heard and he feels respected, the marriage comes alive again.
We Create the Marriage That Serves You Now
Not the one from your wedding day — you were different people then, who needed different things. We discover who you each are now, and you learn from each other what matters most today. That is how two people who have been through the fire build something truer, more awake, and more alive than anything they had before.
Your Next Step
You’ve been carrying this long enough. Let this be the day you hand some of the weight to a guide who knows the way.
Book Your Free Consultation CallFree. Private. No judgment. Just a way forward.