What Are You Giving to Your Relationship?

Wednesday February 17, 2010 By admin

Ask Yourself: What Would More Love Do For Your Relationship

In the end of your relationship when you are looking back at what was and what could have been you will always come back to one simple, but loaded, question: what are you giving to your relationship? In order to make things better or just make things enjoyable for you and your partner you must consider what you are giving to your relationship and how you can improve on this. It’s time to take immediate action and take a look at how you got to this point.

What follows is three ways you can take stock of and change what are you giving to your relationship.

1. What are you giving to your relationship more happiness or sorrow? If you look back through your days with your partner and you realize that you have caused more pain than you have created joy then you might need to reevaluate your process. Consider making more time for fun activities and less time for stressful jobs like paying bills or balancing the checkbook.

2. When you are asked what are you giving to your relationship always be able to answer that you are giving love and respect. If you feel that you are not
treating your partner with equal and exceeding amounts of love and respect, consider what you could do different.

3. If you are asked how you are giving to your relationship don’t ever forget about help. If you constantly offer help and assistance to your partner then you
will never be lacking in your relationship and you will always be proud of what you are giving to your relationship. It send the message that they are a priority and an important part of your life.

The best way to look at your relationship is from the perspective of giving. If you have that mindset, your relationship will continue to grow and flourish. Your partner will begin to take notice that you are giving and start reciprocating with ways they can give to you. Keep noticing ways to connect and become closer and closer to the one you love. Then you will always look back on how far you have come together as a couple and know that you in fact did give to the relationship all that you could. What you are giving to your relationship can close the gaps and allow the other person to feel cherished and loved.

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Understanding and Accepting Your Spouse

Saturday February 13, 2010 By admin

Chris & Jessica Engagement - Falling
Photo by AuzigogIf your marriage has any chance of surviving the test of time then you must make sure one thing is accomplished, understanding and accepting your spouse. It is no secret that half of all marriages entered into today last through the test of time and there is a very simple reason for this. The reason is that most people give up on understanding and accepting their spouse and instead start to resent them.

The reason that understanding and accepting your spouse is so difficult is that most people naturally assume that they will find someone that will be able to fit into their lives. We don’t expect that the love of our life will have some different wants and needs than us so we don’t realize for a while that we must put effort into understanding and accepting our spouses.

Once this time comes so many people don’t want to put effort into changing themselves that the two partners clash and the harm is almost irreparable. Understanding and accepting your spouse is about realizing that your wants and needs are important, but compromise is even more of a necessity.

When you have come to the realization that understanding and accepting your spouse is important then your marriage will only get better. You always need to stand up for yourself, but if both partners are willing to compromise the marriage can’t possibly suffer.

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How to Stay in Love

Thursday February 11, 2010 By admin

Everlasting Love

Ways To Keep Love Alive

The everlasting question of will never accurately or absolutely be answered, but the question of how to stay in love can be answered somewhat simply if you just have the keep focused, determined, and stay motivated. You will be surprised that by putting your mind to it you begin to realize that the question of how to stay in love is answered simply as how to find new ways to love your partner. Every day we see something new about our partner and when you do, you respond in a new loving way. This is done by accomplishing the one thing that everlasting love is supposed to be about, perseverance – going the distance.

Last night I could tell that my husband had a rough day at work. He finished work only to come outside and see his tire was completely flat. That in and of itself was enough but the last thing that had happened at work had really made the tire being flat a real downer for lack of a better word. Fortunately, the prepared guy he is, he put a can of fix a flat in the tire and came home. I knew that he definitely needed for me to listen and care and – now if I am honest, it is usually the other way around. He knows that I feel loved and cherished when I am listened to attentively. So last night I listened and tried to really love his cares away. Anyway, today as soon as he had his shower, he went out side to check the tire- no coffee first – so I knew this was not the way the day needed to start for him. He is a coffee first kind of guy. I could tell that I needed to focus on helping him- loving him and addressing his biggest concern. I had to be patient and ready to get out the door to at a moment’s notice so as not to add to his distress. Just like you and your partner, we too are two different people and handle things quite differently. So you can ask yourself what your partner needs from you right now under the circumstances and give your love in that way. Do I always do this to the best of my ability – no- but today I really tried hard to be patient and understanding and accept how he was dealing with this. And guess what on the days you don’t get it right – just like me- you have a chance everyday to love them all over again in a new way. The point is your partner will remember those moments that you really tried to be loving and give to you. That is how to stay in love.

Our world today has perpetuated the myth that love happens at first sight and is very easy to maintain because it is some inborn passion that lives inside you forever. While love may initially introduce itself in this manner, how to stay in love is quite a different story. How to stay in love is rooted in the idea that you are never quite finished learning about each other and finding new ways to give and express your love. You see everyone experiences love in a different way. This is because you both have been raised by different families and loved in different ways that became comfortable to you. You have both experienced life in different ways. You have also had previous relationships that also impact your love. The best way to stay in love is to stay curious about each other. Learning about your partner, learning about your relationship and learning about what you are about and what you need in the way of love. How do you feel and experience love? Teach your partner how to love you and have your partner teach you how to love them. In the way, you will get it right and know just how to stay in love, forever.

Do you remember how long and hard it was to find your true love and complete the road to marriage? Will it will be much longer and harder to stay that way? If you were hoping to find the long lost secret that can be done overnight think about this – the secret to great love is to both discover new ways of giving love to each other and making sure that you love in the way that each of you feels and experiences that love .

This is what makes love worth it, the payoff in the end. Knowing that how to stay in love is something that you can do together for each other, you should be encouraged to know that you will never be disappointed, and you will keep your everlasting love alive.

Best Tips for Having Fun as a Part of Your Relationship

Monday February 8, 2010 By admin

Create The Relationship You Both Want... by adding time for fun

Any relationship is going to go through its share of ups and downs, but if you follow some of the best tips for having fun as a part of your relationship you will have much more ups than downs. Keep in mind that these are not ways for you to save your relationship, but instead was that you can have fun in your relationship and not allow it to get to the point of needing to be saved. Do you want your relationship bad enough to consider all of the tips?

Here are the 3 best tips for having fun as a part of your relationship:

Laugh at Each Other- this is not to say that you need to make fun of each other and belittle your partner. When you make a mistake or forget something small during the day have a good laugh and don’t forget that life is so simple and short.
Act Like a Kid Sometimes- we all have a tendency to think that when we get old we are supposed to stop acting careless every now and then. Go play some putt-putt or ride the bumper cars every now and then, add some fun as a part of your relationship.
Act Like You Just Met- when looking at the best tips for having fun as a part of your relationship this may be the best. Every now and again when you go out to dinner or a movie act as if you know nothing about each other. You will likely learn something new and might just forget your petty differences for a little while.

How to Survive Parenting and Marriage

Saturday January 30, 2010 By admin

Baby feet
Photo by daveblumeIt goes without saying that two of the most difficult things you will have to do in your life are parenting and marriage. Never before or after in life will you be presented repeatedly with moments that will define you as a person and show the person you truly are. Parenting and marriage will make you pull your hair out, but they will pay off as well if you stick around long enough.

The way to survive parenting and marriage with a smile on your face is to take time to yourself every day. This is not to say you take several hours to go to a movie every day or take a small vacation by yourself. No, life with parenting and marriage will make you appreciate the small times alone and that is what you need.

When you are in the stretch run of parenting and marriage when your marriage is young and your kids are younger, you will learn to appreciate the minutes instead of the hours. When you are driving home from work you may opt for silence instead of the radio. To survive parenting and marriage you may take just a few more moments in the shower every day to yourself.

In the end, parenting and marriage truly comes down to the same things as the rest of your life. Some moments are big and some are small, you have to enjoy both with the same amount of drive and vigor. Don’t long for hours alone, look for your moments and take them in stride.

Ashley Judd Appreciates Her Husband

Tuesday January 26, 2010 By Debbie

Ashley Judd Knows the Greatest Secret of All About Men

Men Love To Be Appreciated – just ask Ashley Judd . . .

Ashley Judd shares a great relationship tip that she uses in her own marriage to keep the intimacy and connection alive. You take the time to notice something positive that your spouse has done and to “do an appreciation every day.” It always amazes me when I come across a great marriage tip from someone in the spotlight. Now don’t get me wrong, I am a big fan of several movie stars but I don’t usually encounter marriage tips from them. This is different. Ashley Judd incorporates a great marriage tip that will strengthen your relationship each and every day . . . Appreciation. Her tip is to take a few moments every day to let your spouse know something that you appreciate about them. No matter how small or insignificant it may seem at the time, it can make a huge difference in your relationship. Notice the little things such as your spouse always stopping to listen to you instead of ignoring you. Maybe your spouse looks great today and you let then know how easy on the eyes they are. Perhaps they stopped on the way home to get your favorite coffee. The point is no matter what, even when there are things you notice that irritate you, give them an appreciation.

Here is the post in Showbiz Spy posted by Adam:

ASHLEY Judd always makes time to appreciate her husband.

“The point is, we’re always so quick to say, ‘That hurt my feelings,’ so how about being as quick to say, ‘I really appreciated it when you turned the TV down so we could hear each other,’ the actress, who’s married to racing driver Dario Franchitti, told the new issue of Redbook magazine. “Dario and I do an appreciation every day.

“It was a suggestion from a friend who does it with his wife. Sometimes it’s [she mimics gritting her teeth in annoyance and spits out], ‘I really appreciate…’ But that’s the point of the exercise — even when one is cross, to get some gratitude on board.

“We’ve been together 10 and a half years. We have our eighth anniversary in three weeks.”

Judd, 41, stars opposite Dwayne Johnson and Julie Andrews in new movie Tooth Fairy, which hit theaters this weekend.

The screen siren says she decided to accept her role in the children’s flick after being told by her agent it would be a “really fun” experience. And absolutely nothing to do with getting a paycheck!

“My agent sent me this script and she said, ‘I have a feeling that this would be a really fun experience for you’,” Judd recalled. “Dwayne Johnson is adorable and funny, and I had the unexpected pleasure of getting to have Destiny Whitlock in my life, the little girl who plays my daughter.”

The Dream You Have For Your Marriage

Tuesday January 26, 2010 By Debbie

Dream Come True Marriage

Living the dream of a happy marriage

Dreams are such a living source of hope. Hope for what is possible. This is also true for your relationship. There is a dream that lives inside you that shows you where you want your relationship to be. Sometimes, you are dreaming about having a more romantic relationship with passion and fire. Perhaps you dream of having more peace and harmony in your relationship. You also may feel as if you come last and you long for a relationship in which you feel you are the priority. Even hoping for more understanding and deeper communication is another aspect of dreaming about a different type of relationship than you have right now.

The Relationship We Dream Of Having

Relationship dreams lead you to what you want and need from your spouse. Today, I was inspired by reading Dr. Wayne Dyer’s Blog and wanted to share it with you. Listen to the dream within for your relationship. Then have a conversation with your spouse about what you want and need right now from them. They can’t read your mind. They can’t see your dreams. They do want you to be happy. Pick a time when you can be free to talk about ideas and dreams without time restraints. Allowing yourself the opportunity to share what really matters makes for a closeness with the two of you. Catch up with each other. See what your spouse has been wrestling with at work or with extended family. Sometimes the very reason that we are not connecting or having the Dreamy Relationship we want is because we are just not getting enough time to allow each other the space and time to explore thoughts, hopes , and dreams.

I often tell couples this one statistic: The average couple only speaks to each other 12 minutes a day – that includes all forms of communication. Get connected again. Talk and dream together. Share your thoughts about what you want to see happening for the two of you in 5 years. It will make such a difference on your relationship!

For More inspiration Visit The Dr. Wayne Dyer Blog – Dr. Wayne Dyer

What dreams about your relationship live inside of you?

Having Fun as a Part of Your Relationship

Friday January 22, 2010 By admin

Making Time For Fun With The One You Love

The Ups And Downs Of Love

There is always going to be something to stress you out or something to make you worry about what is coming tomorrow, but having fun as a part of your relationship should never be forgotten. I don’t have to cite the endless amount of studies that show the relaxing and comforting feeling that fun has on the human psyche to convince you. Having fun as a part of your relationship should be the cornerstone to everything you do.

When you go to the store you can incorporate having fun as a part of your relationship by picking out new things to eat that may spark a memory or fun feeling. You can guess the cost of the grocery bill and the winner gets spoils or the loser is penalized in some way. Plan a spontaneous adventure like a picnic at the park. Leave love notes in the car. Plan a date night. Light the candles. Have a camp out in the backyard for the two of you. Be creative.

Having fun as a part of your relationship is not just something you should do at the movies or the amusement park, anyone can have fun there. If you see having fun as a part of your relationship when you are going to the doctor or driving to work in the morning are then you will be happy for the rest of your life together with your partner. Change your focus to what can I do to make this moment fun and exciting instead of focusing on the problems. You can’t imagine what a difference this will make on the way your relationship works. The focus becomes the two of you going through life with fun and celebration for the moments that you share together.

It can’t be stressed enough the impact that having fun as a part of your relationship can have on every aspect of your life.

What ideas do you have for spending time together ?

How to Have a Happy Marriage

Thursday January 14, 2010 By admin

Simple Things You Can Do and Say To Have A Happy Marriage

Many people fear the institution of marriage because they believe that it takes major things to make a marriage work and they don’t know how to have a happy marriage. The truth is that you can avoid many things that would normally make your relationship suffer by being aware and kind. Are you afraid of not knowing how to have a happy marriage?

Here are three things to do to help you have a happy marriage:

Reinforce to your spouse on a regular and consistent basis that they are worthy of your immense love and they are the center of your world. Marriage is a large commitment and part of how to have a happy marriage is centered in complimenting your partner.
Understand that sometimes the secret to how to have a happy marriage lies in those things on the side of your head, your ears. Sometimes your spouse just wants you to listen and if you do that then your spouse will feel heard and validated.
The most ignored principle to how to have a happy marriage is the idea of having a “state of the relationship” discussion every now and then. Ask yourselves how you are doing and what you can do to make your relationship better for the long term. How do you make your relationship a priority? What do you want from your relationship?

What are some things that you do every day to have a happy relationship? What does this relationship mean to YOU? Where do you want to be in 5 years as a couple? What can you celebrate today that you have accomplished as a couple? What motivates you to have a happy marriage? What can you say today to your spouse to create a happy marriage?

Happily Ever After

Relationship Tip Of The Week

Monday January 11, 2010 By Debbie

Seeing Good In The One You Love

How do you stop that uncomfortable distance in your relationship? Relationships can often times seem to just dangle by a mere thread. You talk about your day to day life but underneath there are words left unsaid. You have hurt, and pain as we all do by being in the closeness and complexity of your relationships. I experience it too. As the days float by we become just like a cloud drifting away from each other. We seem to be at opposites ends of the world at times while living in the same house and sharing the same room. Here’s a Relationship Tip that will chart a new course for the two of you and create a new way of opening up. For the rest of this week, every single day, start off with something great that endears you to the one you love. Express that out loud to them before they leave for work. The night before formulate at least one great trait that you notice. Perhaps they are a great listener, really patient, kind to animals, generous, thoughtful, etc. It will come straight from your heart. At first it may seem impossible but keep running the thoughts by about all the things you feel are wrong with the one you love. Move past the negative. Keep going until you remember what endeared you to them in the first place. I know you can do it. Then as you notice they are gathering what they need to head out the door, say there is something I want you to know… I love the way you always take the time to listen to me no matter what. I really appreciate that about you. Then tell them you love them and you will see them tonight and by all means use your own words…they are your words. Keep doing this all week long with no expectation of getting something back. This is about giving to the one you love. And never start off with a great positive trait only to end with adding several negative ones at the same time. Resist the temptation. Keep it up everyday for a week and see what happens. At first they will be looking for the old pattern but keep up the good work. It is going to make a huge difference in your relationship.

Did You Really Hear Me…

Friday September 18, 2009 By Debbie

Relationship Tips

Today I had the pleasure of meeting Joe that is engaged and looking forward to married life. We were having a great discussion about relationships. We discussed the difference between men and women since I saw that all too familiar glazed look in his eyes as I was giving him more information than he needed or wanted. I told him that was a common need in women to explain themselves by giving all the details along with the vital bits of info. These details are an important piece of our sharing and communicating as women. In order to fully feel that we are understood, we must explain exactly what happened, play by play. He laughed and relaxed with me after my long winded explanation. I further explained that as women, we often confuse men by letting them think that we have a problem we want them to solve when we are upset. Wrong. We want to be heard. There is something magical about telling you what happened. You are the safety net and we can vent all that happened on the day to you…you only. Your listening will actually gain you points as well as help us to sort it all out. Sometimes when we are upset, you may think we are upset with you. Girls this is where you can help your guys out. Start out by telling them that there is no problem for them to solve. Then tell them you are not upset with them. On the contrary. Tell them that you need them to just let them vent. This will be a great stress reducer for both of you. Try it and keep trying it. Believe in your power of love. I know I do.

What is your relationship tip?

Welcome to Faces Of The Heart

Friday September 18, 2009 By Debbie

“You’re About to Discover the Love &

Relationship-Building Secrets For Couples

That Helped Me Grow My Own Relationship

And the Shocking Story of What It Took To Learn

These Secrets (That Even My Husband Doesn’t Know) …”

Tired of all the arguments and fighting?
Missing the fun you once had?
Trying to hold it all together when it is falling apart?
Wishing you never even met?
Thinking there is something more than this?
Tired of the hurtful and angry words?

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