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Relationship Tip Of The Week

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Love is the missing piece of the puzzle

Relationship Tip Of The Week

The Power Of Love!

Love is such a powerful force. You do things in the name of love that you could have never imagined. Love grows and lives in your heart. On the other side of your way of thinking, in terms of the one you love, there is the day to day living that causes frustration. Remember that when you first came together you each focused on each other blocking day to day life out. You could not wait for the day to get to a point so that the two of you could be alone together. As time goes by, you get more comfortable and allow more of the day to day life to become the focus. The problem with that is that it becomes less and less about the person you love. Today start making it about the love of your life. Make them feel your love. Express it. Show them. Try it again tomorrow and the next day until it becomes apart of your day. This one step will change everything in your relationship. It will be just like finding the missing piece of the puzzle that makes love last with passion and excitement. Believe in the power of your love. I know I do.

What are your thoughts?

There Is Something I Love About You…

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Being In Love


You will sometimes look at the person next to you and wonder why you have grown so far apart.  Over time as you feel you have asked every question that needed to be asked and found out each and every detail of your lover’s life before you became the one.  The truth is that you will never discover all there is to know.  You are complex and so is the love of your life.  I love to give a quiz I came across on a marriage web site.  It asks really tough questions different from the usual ones you ask.  The other night I gave the quiz to the workshop attendees that were married anywhere from two to 32 years.  Every couple actually did quite well except for a few of the really tough questions.  That got me thinking about how much acceptance and understanding come into play in a happy relationship.  You see, the more you resist the temptation to change and accept the other person’s point of few, the more open the love of your life will be with you.  This works the same way for you. The more eager you are to come from a mindset of understanding and acceptance, the closer you become.  True intimacy can only be found when you both come from a place of sharing all that you are, revealing your true self a little lore over time.  You will always discover something new and different which adds to the richness of your relationship.  Today make it a point to find out something new about the love of your life by asking a different type of question.  For fun, I added the quiz to the Caring For Your Relationship Section.  Check it out and see how you both do on the quiz.

What Movie Title Describes Your Relationship?

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The movies are such a great outlet and escape.  Some of my favorites are the classics and great message movies.  Casa Blanca, The Unforgiven (my husband really opened up the meaning behind this one), Marley and Me, any Carey Grant movie, Meet Joe Black, Out Of Africa and many many more.  There are messages in all movies.  After all they are written by a living breathing human being that has been in a relationship.   The movies have great titles…Dr. Strangelove…The Wedding Planner…Austrailia…Gone With The Wind… and the ones you’re thinking about too.  During the course of working with clients, I mentioned to one of my clients that I was introducing  the topic of relationships at a new workshop that just started.  I asked him what movie describes his relationship by the message in a movie.  He quickly said Gone With The Wind.  That stopped me dead in my tracks as the reality sank in with where he is in relationship with his wife.  What changed?  What can change?  Why we need the happy ending… we have been conditioned to expect it.  The same is true for your relationships. You want the happy ending.  So how do you get that?  Just like in the movies, you realize what really matters.  You make that person the priority. You know yourself so well that you can articulate your needs. You co-create the relationship that works for the two of you. You know how to be in a relationship. You discover new things about each other. You change things so that they do not become routine and predictable like only grocery shopping on a certain day…change is growth. So now what movie do you want your relationship to be?

Our Love Can Never End

The Story Of Us

Ways To Get Your Spouse To Read Your Mind

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Get Your Spouse To Read Your Mind

Staying In Love

 

Tell Him Openly What You Really Really Want From Love.

Why you need to discover –

 Ways to get your spouse to read your mind!

How often in relationships do we overlook the obvious. You tend to think that somehow the one closest to you can actually read your mind.  Better than that it is probably a gift that he can’t. It could get you in a lot of trouble. The point is that you do need to openly tell the love of your life what you need…really need from him. Time to find the best ways to get your spouse to read your mind.

You see as your relationship goes along from day to day it is like a smooth running, well oiled machine.  Then over time it gets neglected and the parts are not running as smoothly. The whole sound of things changes (you even speak to each other differently). The love machine starts to clatter and make a lot of racket. This is what happens to you too. You go along for a while and believe that the love of your life will pickup on the clues you are leaving. And yet these are not the right ways to get your spouse to read your mind.

You drop a few hints and that go unnoticed. You can easily get into a pattern of complaining or criticizing which will cause your spouse’s mind reading abilities to be wrong. The worse part of all of this is that you too will begin to feel hurt and shut down your own feelings for your spouse. You’ll start to clatter and make a lot of racket. This is a normal response after all to get noticed and creates destructive ways to get your spouse to read your mind.

You need something from the love of your life. You need to be appreciated, need understanding, need help with something, need affection, romance, or any other need that you have. It is real. Your needs are vital to your happiness. They are not to be ignored. But how do you find ways to get your spouse to read your mind?

It is important no matter how trivial you feel it is right now to think about what is missing for you. Do not ignore the needs you have. They will become HUGE issues in your relationship if they continue to be unmet. The issues don’t go away.  The one person in all the world that loves you wants to know what you need but could use your help for finding ways to get your spouse to read your mind.

It is the best thing that you can do for the health and happiness of your relationship. Speak your needs out loud by praising the times your spouse has made you feel loved and cherished. Appreciate all the attempts to fulfill your needs. Praise and appreciation work miracles and actually help open up powerful ways to  get your spouse to read your mind and give you what you really , really, want from your relationship…happiness and connection.

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