Before Your Relationship Breaks Up . . .

Be Sure That You Do Everything You Can To Save Your Marriage

Fair to say you’re reading this because you can see relationship problems or you feel a break up coming and you’re wondering what you can do before it gets to that point.

Well the good news is that there are steps you can take right now to save your relationship as long as you can push all the doubts and fears within yourself aside.

First of all consider what you think might be wrong. What has caused you to think a break up is in the cards? Do you suspect your partner of cheating? Do you feel an emotional distance between you and your partner? Or have you been arguing a lot more than you normal for the two of you and you really don’t know why? Have you stopped making each other a priority?

Finding the answers to these questions and others that fit your particular situation, is key at this point. Once you start asking the right questions, then you have a really strong chance of saving your relationship before a break up happens and things get damaged beyond repair. Once you see clearly what has happened, you will have the insight to not blame your spouse and take immediate, calm and consistent action.

Step two is about changing what is unhealthy and damaging to your relationship and managing your own thoughts about the possibility of a break up. Believe that you can change things. You can change how you have shown up in the relationship and you can begin to rebuild the connection.

For example, are you making enough quality time for your relationship? Because without a doubt, this is often the number one reason that couples separate and break up. If you don’t make time for your relationship an emotional distance distance will happen between you and your partner and before you know it, that space which you normally fill, will now be filled by someone else or something else. It’s always important to have the two of you be the priority, even if you have kids. making time for each other keeps you focused on the relationship and each other, connected and close.

Another example of what can happen is you have a pattern finding fault in everything that your partner does or being too critical. This is really a classic sign of dissatisfaction with your life. Whatever you feel isn’t working: career, finances, your relationships and even how you feel about yourself, can lead you to take out your dissatisfaction with yourself on your other half. If there is something that is wrong in your life, sort it out. Before a relationship break up happens, stop and think about how you come across – loving and accepting or unhappy and critical.

If you have genuine reasons to be upset with your partner, then make sure you strike a balance between concern and criticism. No one likes to be told what they’re doing wrong 24/7! Don’t focus on the minor wrongs, that way when there is something really important that you find unacceptable, then you can bring it up safe in the knowledge that it’s not just a long line of what you consider to be your partner’s wrongs! Stay focused on what is happening to you – your feelings and emotions and not your spouses. That will open things up and clear the air and definitely prevent a break up.

The final step is to make sure you clear the air about things on your spouses mind and just listen to understand allowing your spouse to feel heard. Above all, before your relationship gets worse, make sure that you sit down with your partner and talk openly about your fears and concerns. The average couple talks to each other 12 minutes a day and if you have children, it can be five minutes tops – and that includes all forms of communication like texting, phone call, face to face conversations, and at night when you are alone. Whatever you do don’t avoid and don’t pretend everything is all right for you. You never know it could very well be the cae that your spouse has also noticed too and cares deeply about your overall happiness.

The key here is to take the correct consistent action on turning things around so you don’t get to the point where one of you is considering a break up.

Use Your Relationship Psychology To Understand Your Spouse

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No relationship is perfect, but it is possible to make your marriage more enjoyable for each of you. After all, your relationship psychology is all about finding ways to maintain a balance that stops your spouse from becoming disappointed and disillusioned with the marriage. If you’ve already separated from your spouse, then using similar relationship psychology principles can also help you to begin rebuilding your relationship . Improving Your Marriage With Your Relationship Psychology is all about a marriage mindset.

Your relationship psychology is about teaching each person inside the relationship how to recognize destructive or unhelpful patterns that could potentially be driving your partner farther and farther away. One major way to help turn things around is to realize that each of you feels and experiences love differently. The unfortunate part about most couples is that they often believe the other person will think the same way as they do. In truth, men and women have very different ways of communicating those things they need or want. In the beginning of your relationship, you met these needs without even realizing it. That is what made you so great together. Over time, life gets in the way and you stop fulfilling each other’s needs.

Women need to remember that men place more value on actions rather than words. This means a woman who constantly tries to get her spouse to address problems in the relationship by talking about the issues or arguing about bad behavior is almost certain to see an increase in those negative patterns. Men don’t want all that conversation and focus on the problems in the marriage.

Instead of talking or arguing your way through an issue, try using a more psychological approach. Men respond more positively to your actions. They want to know that they are capable of making you happy. A man who is constantly faced with an upset spouse will begin to think there’s nothing he can do to make you happy, so he’ll withdraw even further from you, even to the point of breaking up.

However, if he’s faced with a happy, confident wife who is a pleasure to spend time with, he’s less likely to withdraw. In fact, he’ll likely draw even closer because he enjoys being around you. Men in this situation will often find themselves doing whatever they can to make sure you stay as happy as you were on those occasions. If you find it difficult to raise your self-confidence, then try giving yourself a mini-make over or spend some time doing something you enjoy. When you feel good within yourself, you’re more likely to radiate that confidence outwardly as well.

Men need to remember that women value slightly different emotional triggers than they do. Women want to know that the man they love places enough value on her to really listen to what she’s saying. If you feel your wife is pulling away from you, then sit down and just listen. Give her your full attention. That is all she really wants and needs is to share her day with you and know that you care. It is one of the most validating things you can do for a woman and for your relationship.

Ask questions about what your partner has just said and then take notice of her responses. If men can learn to listen attentively without allowing their mind to wander off, their wife will begin to feel more loved and cherishes, which leads them in turn to develop a great mood, which makes them happy and enjoyable to send time with. They will feel closer to you and open up physically.

These primary differences in your relationship psychology between men and women are simple things you can do to help strengthen your existing relationship, but they’ll also work equally well if you’re trying to improve your marriage.

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