Seeing Good In The One You Love
How do you stop that uncomfortable distance in your relationship? Relationships can often times seem to just dangle by a mere thread. You talk about your day to day life but underneath there are words left unsaid. You have hurt, and pain as we all do by being in the closeness and complexity of your relationships. I experience it too. As the days float by we become just like a cloud drifting away from each other. We seem to be at opposites ends of the world at times while living in the same house and sharing the same room. Here’s a Relationship Tip that will chart a new course for the two of you and create a new way of opening up. For the rest of this week, every single day, start off with something great that endears you to the one you love. Express that out loud to them before they leave for work. The night before formulate at least one great trait that you notice. Perhaps they are a great listener, really patient, kind to animals, generous, thoughtful, etc. It will come straight from your heart. At first it may seem impossible but keep running the thoughts by about all the things you feel are wrong with the one you love. Move past the negative. Keep going until you remember what endeared you to them in the first place. I know you can do it. Then as you notice they are gathering what they need to head out the door, say there is something I want you to know… I love the way you always take the time to listen to me no matter what. I really appreciate that about you. Then tell them you love them and you will see them tonight and by all means use your own words…they are your words. Keep doing this all week long with no expectation of getting something back. This is about giving to the one you love. And never start off with a great positive trait only to end with adding several negative ones at the same time. Resist the temptation. Keep it up everyday for a week and see what happens. At first they will be looking for the old pattern but keep up the good work. It is going to make a huge difference in your relationship.
