Regardless of if you just have it in your blood to do so or you were the captain of the school’s debate team, debate should not be something that enters your relationship on a regular basis. Anything that creates friction and conjures up hard feelings that just aren’t necessary should be removed as soon as is possible. Relationships will have enough of these moments and feelings as it is, extra arguments are not needed in even the healthiest of relationships.
This becomes even more of an issue if you know that you two reside on different sides of a very heated topic like abortion or religion. These topics should only be broached to see what your feelings are and inquire as to what the thought process or experience was that made the approach happen. Don’t ever try to sway your partner to one side or the other because this will only end up backfiring in the end.
Great relationships aren’t built off of the common ground in all religious or political debates, it is built on mutual respect and understanding. If you know that you can have a grown-up conversation about why you feel a certain way about a certain topic that is one thing, but entering a conversation knowing that it will be an ugly argument is quite another. Stay away from debate in your relationship as much as possible.
