Love is complete
Your beloved doesn’t “complete you” – your spouse is a reflection of you. Are you withholding your love or using it as a weapon?
When something feels different inside to you and you have concerns about your relationship, find out what’s going on with you first.
So many people run around looking for someone “to complete them or to make them happy.” But the thing is, everyone is a fallible human being, so no one can complete you or ever live up to your expectations.
People change, people mess up, but The Universe is constantly on our side, Loving us and showing us how we can grow even closer to happiness and Love. Sometimes we just need to take a time out and release all those emotions and concerns that we have bottled up inside. Other times we need to be grateful for all we have.
Our aim should be to not seek and chase for Love, but to BE IT. This means self-love first. True Love isn’t setting HUGE expectations on someone else that they always make you happy and fulfilled. Love is accepting and embracing what is. Easy to say but hard to do.
True Love is being so full of self-love and the Love of something much greater and stronger to hold onto than just ourselves. The Universe that you have more than enough Love to hold your own darkness and light and the darkness and light of the other people. True Love is complete acceptance of yourself and the person you are in a relationship with.
Looking for someone to complete you is to deny your innate potential to be an already full and integrated being. You are giving someone else a power that only you have. And what’s worse once you give away your own power, you lose you in the process. When you aren’t as connected as a couple you begin to feel fearful and doubtful instead of riding out the storms of life that come to everyone in marriage – and I mean everyone.
The Jerry McGuire type of Love can happen, but it’s a setup for all kinds of dysfunction. We have no idea how they did after the movie ended.
Also, making someone else the source of your fulfillment means that if they are not having a good day, acting in integrity or desiring to grow, then you are stuck. It’s a giant anchor holding you down.
In relationship, we either grow together or we grow apart. The Universe is constantly guiding us to greater and greater awareness of ourselves and as a result our Highest Potential. Relationships are containers for growth, not containers for proving how much pain you can endure for someone else.
When we make someone else the only thing that completes us, we can easily blame them, but the blame belongs on us for giving them that power in the first place.
Let’s take our power back and take our eyes off of ourselves and our partners and remember the Source from which we came and which we are all apart of right now. We are a drop of water coming home to the beautiful ocean from which we came. In doing so, we can merge into a wave and do far more connected to this Source than we ever could do alone or with another person.
How can you take your power back today? Reactivate that place inside you where you have your own sense of self – you remember that place – it’s your essence and what makes you – YOU. If you need help, just let me know.
Love,
Debbie
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