Training & Method
EFT-Informed Coaching
An attachment-based approach, built in the 1980s and refined by decades of research since — focused on the emotional cycles that quietly keep couples stuck, and how to break them for good.
EFT CertifiedI’m a coach, not a therapist. Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy is the clinical name for this method — I’ve trainedand have been certified in EFT and bring its tools directly into my coaching work with couples.
The Approach
What EFT Actually Is
EFT is a short-term, structured approach — typically 8 to 20 sessions — grounded in attachment science: the idea that at the core, we all need to feel safely and securely connected to the people we love. Rather than treating conflict as a communication problem to fix with better technique, EFT looks underneath the fight to the emotional cycle driving it — the pursue-withdraw pattern, the protest that looks like anger but is really fear of disconnection.
Decades of research back its effectiveness, with results that hold up over time, not just in the room. It’s been used successfully with couples facing all kinds of real challenges — anxiety, depression, the aftermath of betrayal, the slow drift of feeling unseen — and with every kind of couple, traditional and non-traditional alike.
In Practice
How EFT Actually Shows Up in Session
Naming the Cycle
Every couple has a pattern — one pursues, one withdraws; one criticizes, one shuts down. We name yours clearly, so it stops feeling like “who you are” and starts feeling like something you can actually change together.
In session: I’ll help you see the moment the cycle starts — often something small — before it spirals into the same fight you’ve had a hundred times.
Finding the Fear Underneath the Fight
Anger and shutting down are rarely the real story. Underneath is almost always a fear of not mattering, not being enough, or losing connection.
In session: we slow down enough for the softer, truer feeling to surface — the one that’s actually been driving the argument all along.
Creating New Bonding Moments
Once the cycle is visible and the real feelings are on the table, we build new moments of genuine emotional connection — not scripted exercises, real reaching and real response.
In session: a spouse says, out loud, what they’ve never quite said before — and the other actually hears it, differently than they ever have.
Who This Helps
EFT Works Across a Wide Range of Struggles
See This Work in Practice
This approach shapes everything I do — from a single Fresh Start day to the full Turning Point intensive.